Every Woman's Private Time & Space.
PRIVATE TIME AND SPACE : WOMEN YOU ARE SPECIAL TO YOU.
A woman is a special creation. Women are wonderful. Women are the pillar of nation-building. A single woman creates generations. Womenkind equals humanity.
The glorification of women is a big business. Mother's Day is created: Big industries thrive because of women's support. Tonnes of cakes and pastries are made and sold on Mother's Day, Women's Day, Sister's Day you name it! Billions of flowers stalks are cut to celebrate women! And CHOCOLATES seem to be created for the female species!
But Wiki says something slightly different about women : A WOMAN IS AN ADULT FEMALE HUMAN. And women typically have X chromosomes. They can give birth to babies. Women undergo puberty and menopause. Women have a larger, fat composition than adult males!
MY ABSTRACT ART INTERPRETATION OF A WOMAN
On the whole, a WOMAN is God''s funkiest creation!
(Sorry, this is my OPINION. You may choose to differ!)
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AND SADLY, GOD IS VERY UNFAIR TO MEN!
God is unfair to man! (Oops!) That's because God created woman for so many special reasons.
Traditionalists Claim: Biologically SHE is weaker than the HE. Mentally SHE is stronger.
Poets Claim : HE is inclusive in the word SHE. Without the SHE, HE IS NOWHERE! Maybe because of this poetic reason, VENGEFUL MEN decided to take vengeance on EVE.
VENGEFUL MEN'S CLAIM (not all men, I clarify here): Women are cunning and conniving. Therefore, they are fit to be men's slave. They must be prepared to make breakfast, lunch, dinner and supper! They must bear children, and wash and boil, and sweep, and mop and entertain the ADAM kind!
MODERN MEN'S CLAIM: On top of all the VENGEFUL MEN'S CLAIM above, we the MODERN MEN would be happy if SHE also go gets a job and be as productive as HE is!
(Well, that's personal view of the MODERN MEN group: I have no rights to intrude into the life and style of humans overall!)
But truthfully, the MODERN AND VENGEFUL MEN groups has an acquired taste for WOMEN'S SHAPES and SIZES. These sad groups say the ideal woman's size should be: 36, 24 and 36? (Maybe smaller or larger. I really cannot confirm for the general mass)
Personally, I don't really care about sizes and shapes. Hey MONA LIZA wasn't small!
To the guys out there: SHE comes in all types of makes and sizes and SHE makes every effort to keep her shape and size tolerable in a much more mega effort! Don't believe?
JUST LOOK AT YOUR POT BELLY! WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU EVEN THOUGHT ABOUT REDUCING the PROTRUDING BELLY of yours! (Ha, caught you there ADAM! BUT really, no offence meant!)
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I recall an old song. The Tamil song lyrics go like this:
நாலொரு மேனி பொழுதொரு வண்ணம்.....
(Sung by the famous T.M. Soundararajan)
Which (when related to women) roughly translated means:
'changing in shape and colour every moment of the day(s)!
Question: Hey, do you mean to say all women are WALKING RAINBOWS?🌈🌈
If yes, my Salutation goes to the poets who celebrate women!
So, ladies (or if you choose to be called girls?) we have to admit, we have our moods, our swings, our temperaments, our ES, S, M, EL, XXL, XXXL and the in-between dress sizes!
Hey, Size does matter! Mona Liza (again!) was big by size. And men all around the world adored and still adore her!
By the way, SKINNY Miss Lizzy, don't you worry. One day you will get BIG enough to use that sexy dress you've been dying to wear!
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Now back to the VENGEFUL MEN and the MODERN MEN groups.
The VENGEFUL MEN group, seem to belong to the lineage of the HUNTER-GATHER clan. The men hunted and the women collected and worked in the household over centuries.
The MODERN MEN, on the other hand, well, is actually er, modern. Most men in this group has never slaughtered even a chicken for dinner! They get store-bought chicken, mutton, pork, beef, fish... the list goes on and on and on.
And MODERN MEN has more complicated issues than the HUNTER-GATHER clan like divorce, alimony, affairs, children, illegal children, law-suits, education costs, insurance, crushes, salary issues, wages, politics, diseases... (you can add on here😊)
Question: So my question is 'Whose life quality is better? VENGEFUL MEN's or the MODERN MEN's...?
QUESTION 2: More importantly, what has the discussion so far, got to do with God being unfair to the men?
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Let's get back to the issue of today's article:
How can any woman sneak into a PRIVATE TIME AND SPACE in her busy schedule?
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Bunule Dumnezeu!
(Good Lord! in Romanian)
LOOK back to you past history ladies: Mmm... SURE is a MAN'S WORLD all around!
(Ahem! MANkind? not WOMANkind!)
Coming to the storyline: 👉👇
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Why Private Time and Space for a Woman?
Woman time is special to her alone! Not to her HUSBAND, PARENTS, CHILDREN, GRANDCHILDREN, NEPHEWS, NIECES, FRIENDS, NEIGHBOURS... hey the list goes on and on and on.
A woman, grossly speaking is tossed, stepped, trampled emotionally and sometimes physically (as well) in most of her days by the family (???) and society in general!
NOTE: Men do not go through these kinds of hidden torture and so they are sadly unaware of the issues their female spouse and family members undergo!👧
Now to answer: First reason why God is unfair to men!
Men live in a sadly ignorant mindset and do not realise the suffering of his (female) loved ones until he finds out or until he is informed by his wife, mom, grandma, sister, sister-in-law, girl friends etc...!
#Ignorance in not bliss. It is unfairness to the nth level!
Note: Voice out in the COMMENTS SECTION if you are not in my line of thought!😁
So LADIES now you see why you need your PRIVATE SPACE/TIME.
The next step, girls, is how to identify THAT special Time&Space of yours?
How long SHOULD your PRIVATE TIME&SPACE be?
When to take that PRIVATE SPACE&TIME time: QUIZ?
A. Once a year?
B. Ten years once?
C. Or every other day?
D.Everyday?
Obviously, the answers to this quiz are C and D!😀
TIPS TO CONSIDER FOR YOUR PRIVATE TIME n' SPACE
1. Gardening in your Private Space and Time.💚
A friend of mine can afford 2 hours very other day in her private space... her garden. She takes pride (there I go again!) growing organic vegetables. Her family understands (she trained them over the years actually!) So no one disturbs her. 'It's my private time and space,' she claims!
*(Psst, actually she's still a loyal hunter-gather type!)
Luckily, the friend feels otherwise and proudly claims her Private Time and Space in her Garden of Hope! She, in actuality, is performing the great DIVINE 2 in 1 duty of a traditional FEMALE! Food for her family. And (mmm..) space for her!
I am positive that your grandma, and her mom did the same old thing over the centuries! I am also absolutely sure the ladies in my lineage did exactly the same thing!
CUNNING WOMEN RIGHT? (not in a derogatory manner) Hey, why can't we be as 'cunning' as those ladies?👀
2. Another suggestion I have for Private Time&Space Seeker is: 🚗
Go take the car if you can drive. Or a seek grab car service.
Go far to your standards of preference: 2km, 10km, 50 km, 100km etc until you feel the inner freedom seeping into your heart and soul.
And when you are able to space out the nagging husband, in-laws, friends, children then you have achieved your PRIVATE TIME&SPACE for the day!
Note: Yes girl, it is possible to create your PRIVATE TIME&SPACE all by yourself!
For God's sake :TAKE THE BREAK! Come back fresh, happy, without nonsense. START AGAIN to live the day.
Suggested Places: The beach (Hey you don't have to drag the whole family to the beach.) Go solo. Don't GIVE REASONS! Remember the time when you were young and carefree? Believe me, you still have the EXACT young and carefree soul inside. Or what about the small hill next to your mom's?
Just go on that adventure gal!
Watching the SUNSET is a great way to prepare for a new day!
3. Seek your Private Time&Space... hey dude it's in your room!
Furnish your room elegantly. Change the old desk and curtains. Get good lighting and a nice sitting chair (in your room? Why not?) . Get a table if you like to write. Read! Sing! Dance! Do what you like. It's your time and space. Your personal time and personal space!
This is my advice to you 'girls' out there: Mama, grandma, sister, sister-in-law, aunt, friend, neighbour girl! Just go get your Private Time and Space ready at whatever cost. No cost is pricier than your inner freedom and peace of mind.
Another, idea Peace Seeker (That's number No. 4 by the number system here)👰
Go to a pub. or a bar if your way of relaxing is thus. Take your favourite drink. Tea? Vodka? (why vodka?) A glass of expensive red wine? Go ahead. You won't lose a million dollars on those indulgence. Or look for an elegant restaurant. Have a single meal ALONE! (Hey, I am not trying to suggest an anti-social trend here!)
Girls, buy that Cup Cake you've been eyeing on.(Guys, YES women can eye on a CUP CAKE as well!!!!) Indulge! Enjoy your Privacy, Time&Space-seeker!
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Number 5: DRESS UP!
Dress up gal! Wear that fancy dresss in your larder OOPS! I mean your wardrobe. Forget about the larder for an hour at least!
Take some selfies in that fancy dress or skirt. Or whatever you are wearing! WEAR A FANCY EAR-RING and NECKLACE! Post it to your best friend. Realise you are living a self-fulfilled precious SPACIOUS TIME and life! Have a cup of tea or coffee wearing that darling dress! Feel good ! Feel free aka carefree!
And all this in probably less then AN hour! Isn't this wonderful?
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6. Take a nap.
Put the air-con in full blast if it is summer! Train your family to respect you private space and time. Get an ice-cream cone, enjoy it in bed and then snooze back to sleep.
(Alternatively, in Winter, get a cup of hot chocolate, tea, coffee or anything to reduce the winter blues) Turn on the room tv. (If you don't have a private TV, invest in a good one!)
This link is a good one for winter blues girls: https://youtu.be/Os5M5X8aRRg
Turn on some good music, or relaxation video. Indulge baby.
Indulge in your private SPACE. (Your spouse can wait.)
Note: YOUR PRIVATE TIME AND SPACE IS YOURS ALONE even if you are only 20 0R 100 years old!
*AGE HAS GOT NOTHING WITH YOUR PRIVATE TIME AND SPACE)
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Point number 7: Go see some greens!
Not the market (I mean, if you like the market, go ahead!) My advice is go see the trees, flowers, shrubs, plants, even animals if you are lucky! Remember, you are seeking your PRIVATE TIME AND SPACE!
CHECK THIS LINK AS WELL! https://youtube.com/shorts/2DjprQjhB3g?feature=share
(Tigers anyone? A Bird's NestFern? Or a sun-bear?)... Oh heck, get a look at whatever green you can get to see. Go to the park. Go to the nearby forest reserve. Or to the little garden down by the corner...
DREAM! BE SENTIMENTAL. BE FUNKY.
BE ANYTHING YOU LIKE!
Just enjoy the miracle of life! Every living plant, flower, tree is a magic of God. Praise the Lord for the Miracle of Life (Honestly, how many of us have done that in our life!)
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Point number 8: Salute the sun.
Hey, I am not joking here! Wake up early in the morning, or at whatever time you get to see the sun in your part of the world; Say 'thank you God' for the wonderful creations around you!
(Think of the neighbour's cat or that big barking dog (you don't have to think of the neighbour!)
Note: Yeah, I know. Not everyone has the grace of God to be bestowed with a wonderful neighbour! 👺
YOU WILL LIKE THESE COLOURS OF LIFE IN THE LINK BELOW:
https://youtube.com/shorts/rxHVD2eWiCw?feature=share
The singular bird on the tree, the papaya fruits hanging in batches, the dog barking, the sound of nature. (ANYTHING can provide you that precious feeling of privacy, space and universe!)
Smile and say THANK YOU to the SUN. 🌤
After that, close your eyes, and feel the wonder of existence in your mental mind-set. Take deep comfortable breaths. (I do for about 3 minutes.) And then open your eyes and feel the difference! AH, THE COOLNESS, THE GRATITUDE, THE REVITALISATION!
Hey, heaven is here (this is my personal OPINION) where we are standing right now!
Plus I've got my Space here! I just say THANK YOU SUN and closing my eyes to visualise the environment around me in the DEEP OF my MIND and SOUL! (Hope I am not too spooky! Ha ha!)
And as a conclusion (every beginning has an ending anyway!), take your daily PRIVATE TIME & SPACE in whatever quantity or quality according to your situation in this blessed life cycle and reap the benefits of your PRIVATE SPACE AND TIME (or is it TIME&SPACE?) for a better quality of life and style!
THANK YOU GOOD LORD FOR THIS SPECIAL PRIVATE TIME&SPACE.
IT MAKES ME A BETTER WOMAN IN EXISTENCE
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Last Question: Still not satisfied that GOD IS UNFAIR TO MEN?
Excuse me for now: MY EGG n' SALAD is waiting!
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